Some of the other things that are very common in porn is the very stereotypical scenario where a woman says “No” but then she’s somehow forced to do the sex act anyway and at some point she discovers that she really loves it and that’s what she’s dreamed of doing her whole life and that’s extremely common in pornography.
And when you have guys masturbating to something like that, learning about sex from something like that what that’s actually teaching them is that A) Women’s boundaries don’t matter, B) Anything you do to a woman she’s always going to love it…They are watching this stuff, they are masturbating to it, they’re getting these messages and they’re internalizing these messages not just on an intellectual level in terms of ideas but also now physically in their bodies; what they feel.
i feel sooooo confused about what i look like? am i fat am i skinny and i pretty or ugly i literally CAN’T TELL AT ALL. how i feel about my looks changes on a min to min basis and is mostly affected by my mood i am so confused what the HECK do i actually look like to u people. i feel like an alien in my body
people knowing that i’ve cried and people seeing me cry are two different things like i don’t care if people know i’ve cried because like everybody cries but when it comes to people actually being there and seeing me cry in the moment??? no. nope. nah. no thanks. i’m good. no thank you. let’s not
“I’m afraid I’ll never finish college. I’m afraid I’ll finish college with student loans I can never pay back. I’m afraid I’ll get a degree and won’t be able to find a job in that field. I’m afraid I’ll get a degree, get the job I dreamed of, and hate it.”—A Mental Illness Happy Hour listener whose list of fears matches mine four for four. (via undeadlife)